One day the fighter met the survivor. They greeted each other saying “Hello, How are you doing?” The Survivor spoke first and said, “I am fantastic because I made it.” The Fighter responded saying, “YOU MADE IT? That’s so great, but can you tell me what did you make it through?”
The Survivor, with joy in his heart, said “I just got through some hardship in my life and there was a moment when I thought I was not going to live another day in this life because things were too hard for me. I didn’t have any friends; my family always disappointed me; I could never finish anything that I started; and I was just depressed and discouraged. I even went to several churches and because I was nearly homeless and could not pay tithes or serve because of my illness, I didn’t believe the congregation even recognized me. For several years I thought about suicide and giving my children up for adoption because my wife died three years into our marriage and I didn’t think I was good enough to take care of our children alone, especially with them being 18-months, 2, and 3. But, to keep the sad story from being relived, the best part is that I took a chance at any opportunity and it turned into a flourishing career. I make good money now, I can take care of my children, and put them through college. The best part is that this year I will be watching them graduate from high school together. So this is why I said that I made it. I now see the light at the end of the tunnel!
With all of this said, The Fighter was impressed and felt encouraged. But, The Survivor was curious to also ask, “Fighter, I know I just said how I am doing, but I don’t want to miss the opportunity to know how are you doing, today?” So The Fighter looked into the eyes of The Survivor and smiled. The Survivor assumed and said, “You must be having a great day if you are smiling?” The Fighter shook his head and said, “No sir, But, I am encouraged and getting ready for my next fight.” “The Survivor responded and asked, “Your next fight? Who are you fighting? And what are you fighting for?”
The Fighter was jumping up and down and rocking his head side to side, then finally said, “I’m fighting LIFE! For as long as I can remember ADVERSITY always plagued my family and in the past days of my life things were never easy it was HARD. So I had to make a decision, being the oldest out of 11 kids with NO DAD in my life and a SINGLE MOM that worked three jobs. I had a difficult time in school because I was always getting suspended for fighting my peers. They picked on me because I wore the same clothes everyday and some nights I couldn’t bathe or shower because the water would be too cold or I had slept in a shelter care facility the night before. There were nights I couldn’t eat nor sleep. But one day, I saw a boxer jogging in the middle of the street and he saw me slumped over at a bus stop and said to me, “Boy, why are you crying?” I said to him that I had been crying because my mother just died of cancer and left me and my ten brothers and sisters alone and for the first time in my life I was split up from them because of the foster care system.
Then, I said to him I am the oldest and I feel like this is my fault because I caused my mom so much trouble because of my behavior in school and I never had a chance to say that I was sorry. I am 18 now and aged out of foster care with no home, no job, and nothing to eat. Then the boxer said, “Boy, come with me to the gym. I have something to show you”
This boxer showed me a nice and beautiful gym that was inside of an old warehouse. The warehouse on the outside looked pretty bad, but it was like a mansion or castle on the inside. The boxer showed me some pictures of what the building looked like years ago and he said. When he was 18 he had a dream to own his own gym to teach people how to fight.” I asked, Why? He told me, “Because My father was murdered and my mom died when I was young. I was the only child and had no legacy left for me to live for. So I promised myself that I would teach people how to fight and create their own legacy, so that when they leave this earth they can leave something behind even if it is just a good name. Boy, this gym you see here I fought to create this, I fought to make this gym a better place than what it once was before I got here. I say this to tell you that LIFE is your biggest enemy and everyday you have to fight in order to make it better each day. As you noticed the outside looks like a shack, but that is what LIFE looks like until you fight to rebuild it from the inside first. The plans I have for the exterior are phenomenal, but I have this last fight before I can get what I need to recreate what the building should look like on the outside. Son, this is what you must do. You have to become a Fighter and get better as a person first, then everything you experience and the outcomes of your life will get better.” This boxer mentored me and now I can say my siblings are all together now, they graduated high school and attended college. We no longer struggle like we once did and we live today to Fight for a better tomorrow. So Survivor, to make my long story shorter, I smiled at you because your story of how you survived to live another day reminded me that:
I was once a survivor until I pledged to no longer live so I can see another day, but now I will fight for the rest of my life so I can make the next day better.”
The Fighter smiled and ran away to the gym so he can prepare for the next match up with LIFE.
So who are you right now? The Fighter or The Survivor?